Sappy post ahead, look out!

In the last few months I have been privy to more than a few marital issues.
My parents were married for 36 years. My friend Tricki (name changed to save whatever) was married for 3+ years and my friend Bloz (name changed to also save whatever) was/is married for 1.5 years and on the verge of divorce.

So, apparently things change. I have been married for 3.5+ years, it will be 4 on September 26, 2007.

No one is perfect. Me included, I can say that about my self. I can be an immense pain, I know this.

Let me please just say that my husband can not breathe through his nose. Every morning I wake up and hear this loud breathing. IT'S LOUD! After that, he gets into the shower where he CLEARS HIS THROAT, several times, because he has allergies. He has allergies, that doesn't make the SOUND okay. I get it, I get why that crazy ass sound is coming out of the shower, he can't breathe, but man that doesn't make the sound less pleasant! But, when he gets out of the shower, he kisses me on the head and wakes me into the day and says "good morning", most of the time he doesn't even end it with "lazy butt, when are you getting up?" (but sometimes he does. He should read my blog more often, because then he would know that he shouldn't say that!)

All I am trying to say, or think, or whatever, is what Paul Newman said... He was interviewed once and the interviewer asked how he and his wife, Joanne Woodward, the actress, were able to stay together so long considering they were both in Hollywood. Paul thought about it and said "Every day I get up, I pack my lunch and I go to work". Obviously, he wasn't talking about his "real" job. I have always thought that that is a fantastic quote. A very poignent quote. I would also like to point out that Joanne went to work too. There has to be two.

I still consider Tim and I to be "newley wed". I try to tell him everyday how special he makes me feel and how much he means to me. I plan on continuing to do this until some sickness strikes me down so I can't speak (which will probably also be declared a national holiday)

I think that we have to look at all of the relationships that matter to us. Things do not happen without effort. All Things.

I really think that if we can all spend a tiny bit more time reminding those that we love, that are in our lives everyday, that they are special to us, and telling those that we maybe don't see everyday that they matter, and make a difference, perhaps the world would be a little bit nicer and really, isn't that the point?
No more marriages ending please. More time needs to be spent talking and caring and loving please.